Wednesday, 6 January 2016

Wedding Wednesday: Wedding Traditions ~ Make em, or break em!

As a wedding planner I always say their is only one golden rule....The Bride and Groom are always right! Remember it's your special day not anyone else's, so make sure you are doing everything you want. I’m here to tell you that if a particular wedding tradition doesn’t fit your style, you don’t have to do it! So I've listed below five wedding traditions that I’m giving you the OK to break! 

 Rule number 1: You must have the same number of Bridesmaids and Groomsmen This is something as a wedding planner I'm seeing more and more people do. You want only the best of the best standing by you on your big day and if that looks like five bridesmaids and four groomsmen, so be it. 

 Rule number 2: You must take your Husbands last name Some couples decide to even hyphenate or 'mesh' their last names together. Did you know that, Jay-Z whose real name is Shawn Carter bucked tradition and hyphenated his last name with wife, BeyoncĂ©'s? He is now legally Shawn Knowles-Carter. 

 Rule number 3: The couple should not see each other before the ceremony Of course this is a personal decision for each couple but as most of you know Jake and I decided to do photos before the ceremony for a few key reasons. First I really wanted to do 'first look' photos to capture our reactions and spend some intimate time with each other before the ceremony. Secondly, we had a sunset wedding so that didn't leave a lot of time and we wanted our guests to be able to feel like part of the whole wedding as they would not be left standing around waiting while we took our photos. 


Rule number 4:You have to have a bouquet/garter toss Um if you didn't know already, wedding bouquets are really expensive. Why would you want to chuck it away?! Some Brides will want to keep their beautiful bouquet and that's perfectly OK to me. As for the garter, if you don't really want Grandma to see your new hubby crawling on his hands and knees to take your garter off with his teeth then you can just save this one for later in the privacy of your own bedroom. 

 Rule number 5: You must have a wedding cake As most of you know, if you follow this blog we didn't have a wedding cake, gasp!! I know, I know but most of the time nobody actually eats the cake.... I always recommend to my Brides and Grooms that the wedding cake actually gets plated and served as dessert because come on we all love cake! Instead of a wedding cake we decided to be a bit different and have a dessert table. Weddings are all about sharing that special day with the people you love. For us this included a very special person who has passed away, Jake’s mum, Sue. So we decided to do “Sue’s Dessert Table” with her hand written recipes framed and her baked masterpieces for everyone to enjoy. 


 With that in mind I'm also a true believer in making and keeping wedding traditions! We decided to lay all of our wedding flowers on a Jake's mum's Sue's grave. A few years later when his brother got married, they also decided to do the same thing. It's the little traditions that truly means something to you that's what makes them special. In the end you should just keep in mind that a wedding is a very personal thing. If you are a very traditional person and prefer to follow all the rules, that’s fine too! 

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